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Which emotion do you name? 
Angel
posted Jun 16, 2008 12:08:05 PMTo All
Hello,

I'm new here. Nice to meet you all. I found this site while surfing looking for how to calm down my amygdala. Today was the day, since the word amygdala kept appearing. I even found it written on a tiny slip of paper when I opened my nightstand drawer.

Here's my question: Which emotion is it that you name? The example given (I think elsewhere on this site) was that if your boss is yelling at you you should name that emotion, and it's anger.

Which emotion is anger? The one coming from your boss? (for that is anger or fear or such) or the one developing in you? (which could be anger or fear or such)

To calm your amygdala do you name the emotion coming at you from somebody (the emotion that other person is feeling) OR do you name the emotion that is rising in you in response?

Thank you very much.

Best,

Angel
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Which emotion do you name? 
GranolaJoe
posted Jun 19, 2008 3:12:12 PMTo All
This is an awesome question. Can't wait to see what people have to say
"We abuse land because we regard it as a commodity belonging to us. When we see land as a community to which we belong, we may begin to use it with love and respect." -Aldo Leopold
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Which emotion do you name? 
soapwood
posted Jun 21, 2008 10:04:34 AMTo All

Wow, this is totally deep and I have to admit I wasn't all that sure at first what you were asking. I looked up amygdala and found that I have issues with some of the things that it controls. So, all I can do is tell you how I can answer this, but I'm sure others will vary.


You name your own emotion, at least at first. If your boss is yelling at you, you name whatever it is you're feeling in response to him yelling at you, and more times than not, it will be more than one emotion. Part of naming your own emotion is taking control of your own "self" and shoring up your energy field/aura.  By doing so, you should feel more able to be in control of this area, especially in uncomfortable situations, and feel more in touch with yourself. After all, nobody wants to react to a situation in a way that we normally wouldn't. How many times when I was younger was I put in a situation like this and totally got caught up and engulfed by the emotions of everyone involved.Now I know to stand silent a moment, do what I call an internal scan, seek out the emotion that I'm feeling most at that moment and name it and discard it. Not to say that I don't address it with the other person, but I don't let it rule me. In this situation of a boss yelling, you cannot necessarily change his part in it, but you can take control of your part, by naming your own emotion. You might also find too that at first you'll be angry and then, by going internally and naming it, it will subside. maybe then it will expose the emotion of fear, which you would then go internally to seek out, name it and it should subside. You continue with this until you feel whatever emotion you have subside. It can be useful for positive emotions too, if they are coming across confusing to you. Love has many facets in it's surface and can sometimes take some figuring out. Do I feel love as in "friendship", am I physically attracted to someone but am mistaking it for love?, etc. I've been having to do this within the past couple of days myself, both for negative and good emotions. When I thought of or was around a particular person this week I was getting headaches and stomaches, my face was flushing and rashy, and I had a lot of conflicting and confusing emotions literally pinging around inside me.


As for the other person you may dealing with, what I do is fill myself up with the statement " I am not the true cause of their emotion and I won't carry that burden " and then I pray for them.


It's quite a powerful feeling. I hope that helps, please keep us posted.


Heather~Soapwood


 

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Which emotion do you name? 
Angel
posted Jun 21, 2008 6:01:19 PMTo All
Hi, Heather,

Thanks for taking the time to write me a long reply. I appreciate it.

OK, so it seems you name not just THE emotion (the main one you feel), but ALL of the emotions including the ones coming at you from the other person. This makes sense.

I do wish I would have known this many years ago. But, which of us did? Like you (and I now realize that this is what it was) I was getting buffeted and drowned in everybody's emotions -- and here I mean the bad ones. I didn't know that I *could* give myself a break. At least that's well past.

Best wishes & good luck with that love roller coaster. (If things are literally pinging you might try a very physical approach -- the liver flush. Emotions live in the liver.)

Angel


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Which emotion do you name? 
karen
posted Jun 29, 2008 3:07:18 PMTo All

Angel,


     This is an excellent question. Thought provoking as well. About ninety percent of the day I swim in the sea of gratitude, however I have named all of my negative emotions; fear. Recently, I have spent some time paying more attention to how other people "respond to" the emotions I was feeling strongly but was unaware I was sharing. (Feels a bit like Homer Simpson wondering if he's speaking in his "outside voice")


     Is this the portion of the brain you were referring to?


please pass along any web-sights that would shine some light on the subject.


Quite curious in the sunshine state!

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Which emotion do you name? 
soapwood
posted Jul 10, 2008 7:47:49 AMTo Angel

It was my pleasure! It's not very often I get to think and talk about these things! You are correct, you name all emotions, but it's best to name them all for yourself first to shore yourself up. Once you've done that, if you're able, then you can name the emotions from the other. It important because a lot of times we do something that comes across as if it's out of anger, but once you start naming things you may find that it's actually out of fear and so on. You're yelling at your spouse, you name it as anger. Why are you yelling? Because you're afraid. Why are you afraid? Well, he's been sick and is going in for surgery and I don't want to feel abandoned. Why would you feel abandoned? because everyone in my life that I've loved has left me in one way or another. etc.


Ah, the love roller coaster has come to a hault, as I suspected it would. That's part of why I like to stand back and stay silent and true. Things will always resolve themselves and go where they are meant to go. It doesn't help that internal feeling I carry around of not really belonging anywhere, but I can only have faith that the universe is giving me what's intended for me. Funny that you brought up the liver flush, because I started on one a month or so ago! I do feel better, but I also know it will take awhile to undo years of built up "icks" that I've been stuffing and hiding.


Heather


 

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